Dealing with Ns
“They really do have a fear of being humiliated, and I
think that is the best way to get rid of them.”
“If you, even for a moment
give the Narcissist ANY NS at all, show any vulnerability, sympathy, fear, or
confusion, it will put you back a few stages and you will have to work your way
through again. This cycle can happen many times.”
“In my
experience, the second* best strategy I have found in dealing with Ns is to be
calm, centered, and to have a clear sense of myself, my boundaries, my wants
and needs, and what I consider acceptable treatment of me. Coming from the background I did, such is a
tall order, but to the degree I have been able to adopt this approach, the less
affected I have been by N behavior. In
order to reach this point, I have had to learn what it means to love others and
to love myself, and to practice same.
When I do, all the above things happen as a matter of course. It does not mean that I accept bad behavior
or that I do not protect myself. On the
contrary, I am far better able to recognize bad behavior and to take effective
measures for protection.”
“Given that it is in the nature of N behavior to sow confusion to reap control, then clarity is our best weapon. When we are in the middle of things one of our best helps is someone outside who can see clearly.”
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