In The Beginning
“I was seeing Mr. Wonderful for a little over a year.
The first 6 months or so were... wonderful. He told me he loved me,
alluded to our future, was warm and ‘connecting.’
Of COURSE there were flags; he was coming on strong, and I knew he was
very intelligent and intuitive and I couldn’t shake the feeling he was
letting in under my radar; I hated his flirting and how I’d go for days
without hearing from him sometimes; but I trusted him and he was saying
things I wanted to hear. Then the splitting started, and I started to
unravel. Back and forth, bonding and withdrawing—he never broke us up, but
would say he didn’t see how it could last, and he thought we ‘might’ be
incompatible, ‘might’ not, he didn’t know. I was bewildered and fought a
long time (WAY too long) to figure out what I was doing ‘wrong,’ what was
going on, what he was thinking. And then he’d always bond again with
persuasive ‘sincerity.’ Finally I told him I meant it—I wanted a
commitment or not. I kept some distance for weeks and he never committed
OR let go, seemingly ‘proving’ that he loved me even though I wasn’t
‘feeding’ him, though probably I was. About 2 months ago he said
some pivotal things and I totally surrendered. LATER THAT DAY he withdrew
again. I left.”
“His facade was so polished. Had I not been clouded
with my own ego needs I would have recognised a wounded animal that was
doing the best he knew how to survive. I was perplexed when he bit at me
for no reason, retreated to his cave quite frequently.”
“When we met he portrayed himself as a sensitive new age guy (SNAG) and
courted me heavily. I wanted to BELIEVE in his portrayal and enjoyed the
courtship so we satisfied each other’s scenarios.”
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